Ugh. I’m having the same brain battle. It’s a sucky and hard one. XO
Thanks. All of the important numbers have come down: blood pressure, blood sugar, cholesterol, resting heart rate, and body fat percentage. But those numbers are hard to get at, and the stupid weight one is easy to get.
But it’s also the most useless and I can’t ever remember that standing on the stupid scale.
I lost 15 pounds this year, but I’ve gained them all back. But I need to remind myself that it isn’t a bad thing: I lost a lot of fat, but recently gained some muscle back. I don’t look as flabby in my cheeks as I did, and my waist is still slimmer, and I’m stronger.
Feels like a fail, even though I know it isn’t and that’s the worst part.
Since a transman can still get pregnant while on testosterone (even though the chance is slim), can he still use a home pregnancy test? Or will his hormones affect the results and give a false negative/positive or something?
Don’t worry. The pregnancy test would still be accurate. Pregnancy tests only test for the presence of a specific hormone in the body: Human chorionic gonadotropin (HCG). HCG is a hormone that’s produced after a fertilized egg has implanted into the wall of the uterus. So taking “T” will not interfere with pregnancy tests.
If a trans man gets a positive pregnancy test, he should talk to his health care provider about his options, as testosterone could have an effect on the pregnancy.
“Fetishes, on their own, aren’t harmful, wrong, or shameful things. Whatever floats your boat is fine—as long as it harms no one. The important element to fetishes that don’t harm people, though, is that they all involve a degree of performance and the ability to move in and out of fetish space. If you have a thing for people wearing ostrich-feather tails, your partner is free to prance around the house in hot pants and a tail as often as she likes; and when she’s not into it, she can put the tail away.
Racial fetishes, however, are based on objectifying someone because of her race, which isn’t something she can control. An Asian woman can’t choose to take her Asianness off for the day, a Black woman can’t decide to not be Black while she walks down the street. These are lived, inhabited identities that cannot be turned on and off; there is no safeword for race. You live these identities throughout your life, experiencing the good and bad things associated with them, interacting with your community through and around this identity.
Someone who says he (and it is usually a he) ‘prefers’ women of a specific race isn’t exercising a preference based on orientation or experience. He’s viewing certain kinds of women as dateable material on the basis of racial discrimination; and it’s telling that most men with racial ‘preferences’—which are really racial fetishes—use very racist, stereotypical descriptions when talking about why they ‘prefer’ women of specific races. Asian women are meek, say, or Latinas are fiery, or Black women are exotic and know how to deliver in bed.”—
“I saw myself sitting in the crotch of this fig tree, starving to death, just because I couldn’t make up my mind which of the figs I would choose. I wanted each and every one of them, but choosing one meant losing all the rest, and, as I sat there, unable to decide, the figs began to wrinkle and go black, and, one by one, they plopped to the ground at my feet.”—
Sylvia Plath (The Bell Jar)
God this quote.
Don’t even care that Sylvia Plath’s become shorthand for, like, sad teen girl poseurs because guess what—that’s bullshit.